I am Asian and I currently live in Dubai. The others are quite confused about my nationality because I sound like American. I dont have time to explain them because there are many factors why I sound like this. Though I may say, my hobby of online chatting before when i was a kid is one factor.
Yahoo Chat was one of the greatest inventions man has ever created, i thought. I spent my whole weekend talking to different people about Lord of the Rings, New Rock Songs, guitars, atheism, business, Buddhism and anything under the sun. There were chat rooms about flirting and dating but they were the most ignored ones as far as i remember.
Im not sure if there is still Yahoo chat nowadays. It has been a long time. I am now working for almost 9 years and my work has something to do with communications. Besides we got Facebook now and all other social media sites.I guess everything has just evolved. I still love chatting though, like real chatting over a coffee or a drink.
I just got here in Dubai. My social life isnt as amazing as it was when I was back home. Im obviously bored. There are many precautions and to be honest...i dont really know who to trust well. I thought why not go to the basics? I asked some few people what are the latest online chat applications where i can meet people in Dubai. There...we got skout, badoo, who's here, what's up....blah blah. I was very thrilled...just like the old times.
But I could nt be more disappointed to find out that online chat sites like these has turned out to be an online prostitution marketplace. It is just sad that most females were Asians. Most of the subscribers are men and each time i say hello they all think I am a tramp. I think it is disgusting and insulting at the same time. I hope they know that some Asians are even more educated than them.
I didn't give up though. I thought there should be some people who might be just like me. Then there he was, Mr. Johnny Bravo. He asked few questions to check Im not one of those "online whores" that he was referring to. I thought he was okay and all that. I mean talks about past relationships,sex and adult relationship arent so bad . Not until he asked me to take pictures of my thongs in my drawer. I was like "why". I am starting to get so uncomfortable and I asked him to drop our subject. Lol it turned him off so he stopped chatting.. Oh well.
I was able to talk to some who arent like that though I have to be extra careful because nice words can be very deceiving. I mean doing a bit of background check would be helpful. After all, anybody can just lie in person what more can they say online?
Checking people's social network account for others is considered as stalking. But it isn't really. I mean isnt that the purpose of having it ... for other people to check you out? Anyway my point is when meeting someone online be very very very cautious especially before you see them in person.
I was drugged once by a friend and almost got raped. If the taxi driver didnt come to rescue me i could have ended up in the news paper. You see? Things happen like this even with people you thought you already knew, what more could happen with people you just met online?
A friend told me once "Meeting people online is cheap". Is it? I would say, definitely not. Online prostitution is cheap. Sexual and immoral acts on the internet is cheap. Human trafficking using the internet is cheap.
This is not to criticize the people who promote pornography on the internet. if that's the way they live their lives then so be it. We are all free people. But we need to ensure that in everything we do, we have to be responsible and careful on what we actually contribute to the society and morality.
I uninstalled all dating and chatting apps on my android. Not because I think it is cheap but I guess I'm just a bit in a trauma after the responses i got from other chatters. Social network sites will suffice. Nothing beats chatting with your real friends and meeting people in person.
Internet is a helpful tool but it doesn't have everything. Life is so much better outside and experience the real thing. :)
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